What are YOUR Relationship Resolutions?

As the “Passion Doctor”, my work is to help couples have more romance, more passion, more sexuality and more intimacy in their live.  And around the time of the new year, the question of relationship resolutions is an important one to reflect upon. I’ve reviewed my previous Passion 101 blog posts and I’ve compiled five relationship resolutions that will definitely benefit you, even if you practice only one of them.

And while I’m real not a huge believer in New Year’s resolutions, I do believe that setting an intention to improve your relationship is critical to having your partnership grow. Whether you set this intention now, when there is a general agreement in the world to do so on January 1 or do it another day (or EVERY day!), just do it!

1. Recommit to your relationship!
One of the biggest passion killers is taking your relationship for granted.   Read the rest

Pumpkin Pie Can Help Your Sex Life!

As “The Passion Doctor”, I’m always on the lookout for ways to create more passion in your relationship.  And around the Holidays, we often overindulge in food, which can leave us more like beached whales then sex machines.

So you’ll love this passion tip, especially between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day.  Believe it or not, research from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Center shows that the smell of pumpkin pie arouses men.  In a study of 40 odors, the smell of pumpkin pie combined with lavender increased blood flow to the penis by an average of 40 percent.

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Are More Dominant and Attractive Men Better In Bed?

This has been a fascinating question that has been open for debate for a long, long time.  It’s probably only second to the “does size really matter” question.  From a biological perspective, it certainly would seem that the more “dominant” males will be better breeding stock and so will be more desirable to females.  On the other hand, our more “civilized” society would like us to believe that a more sensitive, caring man would make a better lover.

Well, wonder no longer, Penn State University completed a study of  110 heterosexual couples to find out the quality of female orgasm (a big factor in promoting conception) as a function of male dominance and attractiveness.  And the results are in!

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81.7% Of Married Men Surveyed Are Frustrated, Dissatisfied And Want To Improve Their Sex Life

As the “Passion Doctor”, I’ve been writing the Passion 101 Blog for over three years to help committed couples in long-term relationships keep that spark of romance and passion alive.  A big part of my work with couples is to reignite their relationship and I’ve created a number of teleseminars as well as my ebook, “101 Ways To Bring Back The Passion!” to achieve this.

I’ve recently become aware of a new home study course to support this goal and to help men to rekindle the romance and passion in their relationship.  It’s called Revive Her Drive and it is completely in alignment with my beliefs and my work with couples.

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Do You Practice The Seven Kinds Of Sex?

One of the main reasons couples choose to work with me in counseling of telephone/Skype coaching is that they are having issues “in the bedroom.”  Not enough sex and/or not the “right” kind of sex are big issues that I work with every week in my private couples counseling practice.

Part of my work is providing education about the Three Stages of Relationship and how to keep the passion going once a couple is out of the “honeymoon stage”.  And part of this education is explaining that there are different kinds of sex and that each “kind” has a place in the relationship.

 In no particular order, the seven kinds of sex are: Read the rest

I was a recent presenter for the “Summer of Love” series sponsored by my friends  Nancy Burke Barr and Deb Stevens at Smart Biz Builders.

My topic was ROMANCE and in addition to giving you three tools to bump up the romance in your relationship, I also shared how to sustain your love affair with your BUSINESS!  

This is the first time I’ve applied my ideas to business and marketing and I’m so pleased to be able to share the full recording with you below.

Thank you so much,

Dr. Adam Sheck

Is “Doing Your Best” Good Enough In Your Relationship?

In the humanistic school of psychotherapy, we often take the perspective that our clients are “doing the best they can with the resources they have available to them.”  These resources include  their childhood upbringing, their genetics, their support system and all of the experiences that have gotten them to this point in time.  We’re talking about  both nature AND nurture.

While I subscribe to the humanistic school and believe that using it is important to good psychotherapy, at the same time, I don’t believe that it is enough.  In the beginning Read the rest

Which Side Of The Bed Do YOU Sleep On?

Who controls the “climate control” while you and your partner are driving?  Who’s in charge of the remote control while watching television?  Who decides where you sit while dining at home?  At a restaurant?

I know that these all seem like trivial questions, yet they speak to a big issue in relationships, that of the POWER STRUGGLE!

After a couple has been together for awhile and made it through the “honeymoon” stage of the relationship, they enter the power struggle phase.  This is where the “chemicals of love” have worn down a bit and we begin to experience who we are actually in a relationship with and we begin to butt heads as we notice our differences (For more on this, see my post, “Three Stages of Relationship”).

Let’s return to the original question, “which side of the bed do you sleep on?”   Read the rest

We just released another “He Said, She Said” video with myself and cyberdating expert Julie Spira on the question, “Should you kiss on the first date?” I’m so pleased to be able to post it below and hope that you’ll enjoy our debate and post your comments about the question below.

Thank you so much,

Dr. Adam Sheck

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Do Women Want To Be Ravished?

As a psychologist and couples counselor, I’ve been asked this question by men, women and couples for the last twenty years. My specialty is helping couples bring back the passion in their relationship and using fantasy is one way of doing this.

And the fantasy of being ravished, being lovingly, yet forcefully taken by her man is consistently in the top five female fantasies, often the number one fantasy. This is different than the “rape fantasy” which has often been misrepresented.

Of course, women don’t want to be raped, this is an act of violence and power, not one of love. However, as revealed in the always popular romance novels, the fantasy of a strong, powerful man initiating sex with a woman, not accepting her initial reluctance, and then loving her passionately, is a popular fantasy. This is not about abuse and power, as in most of these novels (and fantasies), the couple ends up married and living “happily ever after.” Read the rest