I’m letting my loyal blog readers know that new blog articles for the Passion 101 Community will be posted at the Passion Doctor Blogsite, which you can access when you click the link below:

www.thepassiondoctor.com/blog

I will continue to share my thoughts about passion, intimacy, romance and sexuality at www.thepassiondoctor.com, nothing is changing besides the change of name. And as always, I appreciate your loyalty and offer you a complimentary telephone/Skype Relationship Consultation available when you Click Here!

Thank you again,

Dr. Adam Sheck

December 11 Is The Most Fertile Day Of The Year!

A recent  study looking at birth rates indicates that December 11 is the most fertile day of the year!  This is from a UK study which indicates that September 16 is the most popular birthday.  Backing this out by 40 weeks (the average gestation period) makes December 11 the biggest conception day of the year.

Now I’m not sure how seriously to take this information, as no one has reviewed the U.S. birth rates to my knowledge.  AND, Read the rest

Why Wait For The New Year To Make Changes?

Most of us wait until the “New Year” to reassess our lives and state new plans, intentions and “resolutions” for our lives. Yes, it’s a time when there is general consensus that this is a good thing to do, yet why wait?

If you want to create change in your life, why wait? NOW is the only time that you can make change, whether that NOW happens to occur today, tomorrow or on the first of January. The only thing that creates change is creating change: in the mind, the heart, the body. It starts with intention and completes with follow through. And it begins NOW!

The purpose of this post Read the rest

Can The “New Macho” Help YOUR Relationship?

I’m a big fan of the Mankind Project (MKP) and have shared about it in previous posts (Mankind Project, Men’s Work).  MKP has shared a great working definition of the “New Macho” as a model for the “New Masculinity”.

It is a wonderful launching point for discussions about what makes for healthy masculinity and how it can help to co-create healthy, loving, romantic relationships between equals.

I’m presenting it to you below and Read the rest

Can We Balance The Fighter and The Lover in Relationship?

While assisting a recent Tantra workshop, I experienced the strong difference in my body between when I embody the Fighter or Warrior and when I embody the Lover archetype.  It was such a pronounced and uncomfortable  difference that I felt the need to write more about it and how it might impact us all in our relationships and in our lives.  If you are unfamiliar with these terms, I give a very basic explanation of the four masculine archetypes in my post, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Four Mature Masculine Archetypes.

Of course, during a Tantra workshop I expected to open up my heart, be fully in my body and to activate the Lover archetype.  Not exactly an earth shattering epiphany, now is it?  I felt open, loving, spiritual, connected, soft, vulnerable and available.

However, as an assistant of the workshop, I also had responsibilities to see that a safe environment was set for the participants.  Unfortunately there were a few snafus with logistics at the ocean view hotel we stayed at.  To take care of these issues, I had to put on my Warrior armor.  ”This is DOCTOR Sheck, I’d like to speak to the hotel manager, …”

Immediately I could feel a different energy move through me.   Read the rest

After The Break Up, Do YOU Get Custody Of The Sexts?

I originally posted this article on the Passion 101 Blogsite.  Upon careful consideration, I moved it to the Men After Fifty Blogsite and you can access it at:

When You Breakup, Who Gets The Naked Pictures?

My thinking is that on Men After Fifty, I model for other men and women that a psychologist is just  another huMAN being, too, and has issues to face and move through.  The posts are more huMAN, more revealing, more personal.

Those that enjoy and benefit from that can go to Men After Fifty.  I’m choosing to Read the rest

50 Shades: Do Women REALLY Want To Be Dominated?

In light of all of the crazy success and publicity of Fifty Shades of Grey,  it would TRULY appear that something in the collective unconscious is being tapped into.  Everyone is TALKING about it, yet is it what women really want, to be submissive to a man, to be dominated?

As a psychologist and couples counselor, I’ve been asked this question by men, women and couples for the last twenty years. I’ve blogged about this before, yet given the impact of 50 Shades, it seems worth revisiting.  My specialty is helping couples bring back the passion in their relationship and using fantasy is one way of doing this.

I’m not going to address the whole S&M/B&D subcultures here, as it’s the larger issue that is being brought to the forefront of our consciousness.  How much is fantasy and is better served staying that way and how much is worth exploring and experimenting for a couple?

It’s an individual decision for each couple.   Read the rest

National Humor Month: Laugh Your Relationship Healthy!

As we wind down April as National Humor Month, I want to remind you that by adding laughter into your relationship, you can definitely improve it.  You absolutely can laugh your relationship healthy!

One of my recommendations to every couple I have worked with over the last twenty years is to HAVE FUN!  I wrote about this “passion assignment” in an earlier blogpost that you are welcome to click on called High Energy Fun!

Basically, the couple that plays together, stays together!  Laughter helps to keep the shared energy high in a couple, keeps the love alive and creates more opportunities for spontaneity.  In addition, there are many medical benefits to deep belly laughs including: Read the rest

Passion Tip: Hug Until Relaxed

You probably won’t be surprised to learn that many of the couples I have worked with over the past twenty years have had sexual difficulties in their relationship.  When doing sex therapy, one simple exercise I have the couple do on our first session is both diagnostic to me as well as healing for them.  It’s called:

Hug Until Relaxed

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Cheating Husbands Prefer Toyotas, Really?

A recent survey of adulterers found that men preferred Toyotas and women preferred Hondas.  As a couples counselor, I’m not quite sure how this data is relevant, yet it is a piece of some puzzle.  Does it mean that having an affair isn’t a romantic, high class “affair” for most people?  Does it mean that the more well-to-do simply don’t respond to surveys such as this one by the adulterer website, AshleyMadison.com?  Over 3000 people DID respond though, which says something as well!

Perhaps cheating women prefer a man who is Read the rest