Comments on: Live Together or Get Married?

By: drsheck

drsheck — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 14:09:04 +0000

Matthew,
Thanks for the great feedback, though I’m NOT giving an opinion one way or the other here, just presenting the facts and asking the questions. I leave it to YOU to decide what’s best for your life!
Take care,
Adam

By: Matthew Neer

Matthew Neer — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 07:13:30 +0000

Wow, you pose some great questions in your post Adam and I would totally agree that you should live together for a while first before you guys decide to tie the knot and get married without getting to know that persons nasty habits first, cause we all got em! lol

By: drsheck

drsheck — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 01:33:58 +0000

LInda,
I’m so glad the post made sense to you. Sounds like you’re a great mom and I look forward to learning more about you and your work as well.
Adam

By: Linda G. Cox

Linda G. Cox — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 00:09:26 +0000

I appreciate this post. I have been happily married for 27 years. Just like with all married people we’ve had our ups and downs. Separating was never an option. No one knows if it would have been different if it was! As I counsel my children I tell them the importance of making a decision and sticking to it! I’m glad to hear your research to confirm my opinion! I look forward to reading more from you!

By: drsheck

drsheck — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 14:22:46 +0000

Jacqueline,
Glad this post was so thought-provoking and gave you so new information. Thanks so much for the recommendation, it’s an important topic.
Take care,
Adam

By: Jacqueline Green

Jacqueline Green — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 14:14:43 +0000

Thought-provoking post! I was surprised to read that the risk of divorce is so much higher in people who live together beforehand! I think you are right about the lack of an ability to commit being part of the reason why those who cohabitate first divorce more often.

I will recommend this post to anyone who is trying to make this important decision.

By: drsheck

drsheck — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 04:11:29 +0000

Annie,
So glad to give you a new and unbiased perspective. It really means a lot that you can see that I’m doing my best to leave MY opinions and morality out of it so that YOU can decide what’s best for you.
Adam

By: Annie Merovich

Annie Merovich — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 04:04:31 +0000

I’ve never heard the living together situation summarized in this way, & i had no idea about the statistics. It’s definitely food for thought in a relationship. Thanks for scientifically defining it without bringing in moral issues since we all bring something different to the table in that department.

~Annie

By: drsheck

drsheck — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 22:34:08 +0000

Darlene,
I’m so pleased that I’ve given some information to ponder and think about. That’s all I can ask of anyone.
Thank so much,
Adam

By: drsheck

drsheck — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 22:32:38 +0000

Belinda,
Thanks for your thoughts and sharing your experience. I agree, at some point, the nature of your commitment is more important than the label. However, coming to this point takes a certain level of maturity that many couples are still growing into.
Adam