Passion 101

I’m letting my loyal blog readers know that new blog articles for the Passion 101 Community will be posted at the Passion Doctor Blogsite, which you can access when you click the link below: www.thepassiondoctor.com/blog I will continue to share my thoughts about passion, intimacy, romance and sexuality at www.thepassiondoctor.com, nothing is changing besides the change [...]

Why Wait For The New Year To Make Changes? Most of us wait until the “New Year” to reassess our lives and state new plans, intentions and “resolutions” for our lives. Yes, it’s a time when there is general consensus that this is a good thing to do, yet why wait? If you want to [...]

Can The “New Macho” Help YOUR Relationship? I’m a big fan of the Mankind Project (MKP) and have shared about it in previous posts (Mankind Project, Men’s Work).  MKP has shared a great working definition of the “New Macho” as a model for the “New Masculinity”. It is a wonderful launching point for discussions about what [...]

Do You Turn Toward, Turn Away Or Turn Against? Each day, our partners make many attempts to connect with us, both verbal and nonverbal. World renowned couples research, Dr. John Gottman calls these attempts “bids” for emotional connection. A bid can be a question, a look, an affectionate touch or anything else that opens the [...]

Are you able to share your fantasies with your partner? My work is about helping couples who are committed and really love each other to recover their passion. There are many reasons why a couple’s passion fades, and of course each couple is different. There is no cookie cutter solution that fits everyone. One of [...]

Do You REALLY Want A Better Relationship? Over the last twenty years that I’ve been working with couples, I keep hearing, “I love my boyfriend (or girlfriend or wife or husband or …) to death and I want a better relationship, help us!” First of all, that “I love them to death” statement always makes [...]

What are the Three Stages of Relationship and why are they important? In a previous post I wrote about “Why We Choose Our Partner” (click here to read it) and the “Imago”, the idealized blueprint for relationship that we carry in our unconscious mind. Imago is Latin for image. Today I will write about what [...]

What is an “Imago” and what does it have to do with how and why we choose our partner?  As a psychologist and couples therapist, I’m often asked what my view is on what brings couples together, on what that attraction is, and what it is about.  Here is my answer, and it lies within [...]

What are the ingredients for a successful relationship? In my twenty years as a couples counselor, I’ve narrowed it down to five basic pillars that need to be established.  While there are many more components to a successful relationship, these five form the basics. So here they are, the Five Pillars of a Successful Relationship: [...]

All-day foreplay is an incredible way to build up passion in your relationship.  And by all-day foreplay, I mean more than just kissing, petting and oral sex.  This post is about the largest sex organ of all: your mind!  Everything can be considered foreplay is you use it properly. I’ve written about the mechanics of [...]