Passion 101

During my August “Ask Adam” Teleseminar (click for replay), one of the questions I was asked was “How can I get my guy to open up and share his feelings?” It’s a frustrating question that I am asked many times in my psychotherapy practice by singles and in couples counseling as well. Let me share [...]

In working with couples over the last twenty years, it seems like the ingredients we  wish to include in our recipe for a long-term relationship are: Chemistry, Compatibility and Commitment. Each of us expresses these ingredients to varying degrees and we give them different importance and priority.  However, to be truly happy over the long [...]

Do you want to create more intimacy in your life?  It’s certainly one of the issues that many of my couples and singles want to work on when they see me for private counseling sessions.  The first thing I like to do is to define our terms.  When some people talk about having more intimacy, [...]

I’ve posted a number of articles and videos on the psychology of how we come together to form relationships and the stages of relationship: the honeymoon stage, the power struggle stage and the conscious relationship stage.  Now I’d like to go a little deeper into the psychological processes that occur in these stages. Let me remind you [...]

Ever wonder why some couples that appear to be totally mismatched are together? The beautiful woman and the homely man? The genius scientist and the Plain Jane?  The controlling shrew and the mild-mannered husband? The successful movie star and her low-profile boyfriend? Or perhaps, others have wondered why you and your partner are together? What [...]

So what do I mean by the terms Maximizer and Minimizer?  Have you ever noticed that in your romantic relationships that one person usually plays the more active role and one plays the more passive role? Have you ever noticed that one person seems to be the “pursuer” and the other, the “pursued”?   And have [...]

“Too many couples spend more time planning their wedding than planning their marriage!” -Dr. Adam Sheck   My statement above pertains to all committed relationships, whether your commitment is recognized by God, religion, the government, the IRS or whether you don’t even care about validation from an outside source.  My point is, to be successful [...]

People are always asking me for some easy tips to have a successful relationship.  I don’t know if anything is ever “easy” yet I’ve got some information that is certainly very straightforward to implement and very logical as well as intuitive.  I’m sure it will make sense to you and hopefully you will choose to [...]

I’ll start right off by saying that this article might offend some of you.  In fact, some of you might have already been offended just by the title.  It is quite frank and some of the language might be blunt, yet my intention is to help.  I encourage you to continue reading, as I believe [...]

Regarding the question of what men want, it’s not really that complicated at all.  I can tell you this from both personal and professional experience, that what men want in relationships is pretty basic.  Hint:  It’s not about having a “trophy” partner or someone to feed us and take care of us when we’re sick. [...]