Passion 101

Don’t talk so much! I am continuing my thoughts from my post a few weeks ago titled, Don’t Talk So Much! I received a great deal of feedback from the first post and want to address some of it as well as expand upon my original thoughts. To remind you, the basic premise was that [...]

I am pleased to introduce you to my friend Ian Tomlinson, a psychotherapist from “across the Pond”.  Ian is this week’s “guest blogger” and you can learn more about him at his blog.  I LOVE this article he wrote and look forward to your comments on it. As a therapist I spend a great deal [...]

Don’t talk so much! I know that this sounds insensitive and politically incorrect.  I know that psychologists and couples counselors such as myself are supposed to push “communication” as the key to a better relationship.  AND, I’m here to tell you the truth or at least MY TRUTH. This post is specifically for women in [...]

Are you able to share your fantasies with your partner? My work is about helping couples who are committed and really love each other to recover their passion. There are many reasons why a couple’s passion fades, and of course each couple is different. There is no cookie cutter solution that fits everyone. One of [...]

What are the ingredients for a successful relationship? In my twenty years as a couples counselor, I’ve narrowed it down to five basic pillars that need to be established.  While there are many more components to a successful relationship, these five form the basics. So here they are, the Five Pillars of a Successful Relationship: [...]

Can anyone possibly answer the question of what women want?  It certainly is a question for the ages!  Over a year ago, I wrote a blogpost entitled, “What Men Want In Relationships?” and it got the most comments of anything I’ve ever written on the Passion 101 blogsite.  It sparked a strong reaction, both in [...]

During my August “Ask Adam” Teleseminar (click for replay), one of the questions I was asked was “How can I get my guy to open up and share his feelings?” It’s a frustrating question that I am asked many times in my psychotherapy practice by singles and in couples counseling as well. Let me share [...]

The idea of “me before we” might be a controversial perspective and I’m going to share it anyway.  One of the big “Relationship Killers” is the enmeshed relationship where we don’t know where one partner ends and the other begins.  Where we really believe that we know the other so well that there are no [...]

I am so happy to have created this short, two minute video for you!  It details a really simple recipe for having a successful relationship. Just click on the screen below to watch it right now!  And turn up the volume, the music is GREAT! It applies whether the relationship is

When I’m counseling couples I always want to know how they manage conflict in their relationship. Couples come in all shapes and sizes.  Yet there seem to be three basic interactional styles. There are three basic ways that couples manage conflict.  Let’s find out which one you might be!   In no particular order, the [...]