Passion 101 Newsletter Archive

Issue 3, April 2009

Welcome!

It is my great pleasure to welcome you to the third issue of the Passion 101 Newsletter! It is my intention to provide you with monthly information that will help you Enhance, Re-Inspire and Re-Ignite your Relationship with your partner.

The Passion 101 Newsletter continues to be a great success and I invite you to write me and let me know what YOU would like to have me write about on these pages. What interests you? What issues are you facing? What nurtures you? How can I best provide you with help and service? As in any relationship, our relationship will expand as you communicate with me how best to serve and support you.

Please contact me at drsheck@passion101.com and let me know what you would like to see in this newsletter AND what you would like to see on the Passion 101 Website.

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Thank you so much,

Dr. Adam Sheck

Passion Quotes

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.”

–Antoine De Saint-Exupery

“Infantile love follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
Mature love follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.”
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”

–Erich Fromm

“Passion makes the world go round. Love just makes it a safer place.”

–Ice T

What’s A Healthy Relationship?

I was so excited about the definition (below) of a healthy relationship that I emailed it last month to all of my friends and to the entire Passion 101 Newsletter subscriber list! It comes from The Struggle For Intimacy by Janet Geringer:

1. I can be me.

2. You can be you.

3. We can be us.

4. I can grow.

5. You can grow.

6. We can grow together.

It’s so simple and yet so true. Isn’t this what we all want in all of our relationships? How healing can it be for all of us, to be able to be ourselves around those we care about? And how healing to be able to offer that gift to those we love? Easier said than done, and yet it is a skill that can be practiced and developed. That’s the work I do with couples.

And when I can be me and you can be you, there is a basic safety which allows us to grow into who we are meant to be. From the perspective of humanistic psychology, we are born as these “seeds” which need the proper environment to sprout and grow into the unique, incredible human beings that we truly are born to be. Some (many?) of us didn’t have the best of environments in childhood, and so our growth was stunted. The psychotherapy relationship is a healing relationship that provides the “soil” and “nutrients” to get back on the growth track.

A loving, committed relationship can also be this type of “healing relationship.” When I work with couples, that is my intention and my goal, to give them the tools to allow the couple to help each other along their healing path. When there is sufficient safety to nurture that growth, then the possibility of Passion is available! Not only Passion in a physical or sexual way, but in a deep, emotional way as well. And that is true intimacy: feeling safe enough to allow the different parts of ourselves to surface and be discovered by ourselves and shared with another. Isn’t that what we all want? That’s why I love my work so much and feel so fortunate to be able to help others to achieve this.

Thank you so much for letting me share these thoughts with you. I hope they touch and inspire you

Dr. Adam Sheck

P.S., If this has inspired you in some small way, please share it with a friend. You are welcome to forward this newsletter to anyone that you feel would benefit from it.

About Doctor Sheck

Doctor Adam Sheck is a Clinical Psychologist specializing in Couples Psychotherapy in Los Angeles, California. He is certified in Imago Relationship Therapy, a very successful and effective form of couples psychotherapy. He teaches skills in communication and exercises to improve the Emotional, Spiritual, Physical and Sexual intimacy of your Relationship.

In addition to his private psychotherapy practice, Dr. Sheck is Director of Psychology Training at a local Community Mental Health Center. He supervises psychology and marriage and family therapy interns and trains them as a requirement towards their professional licensure. He is also in charge of the Couples Counseling Program at the Center.

Dr. Sheck has been teaching graduate classes in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy for over ten years and is proud to have helped so many of his students become professionally licensed psychotherapists.

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